So you and your spouse seem to be
going nowhere in your marriage. As a matter of fact you both avoid each other
just to co-exist in the same place. Each time either of you murmur a word; it
turns into an argument and things spiral out of control. You, or both of you
decide that divorce must be the only solution. It's obvious that you cannot get
along, and are 2 totally different people going in different directions. So you
decide, "I give up because this Marriage sucks!!!" STOP!!! There is
another solution.
Yes, there is
another solution. It involves your thinking and the ingredients you use in your
marriage relationship. For a moment think about a great piece of cake you had,
possibly your wedding cake, or a birthday cake. Think about the ingredients for
that cake. In order to get the best possible outcome, top-notch ingredients had
to be used. But the ingredients were not the only part, it was the process and
the skill involved to make the cake a success.
It took a lot of moving parts to
get that cake baked and ready to be eaten. Without the eggs, flour, sugar,
milk, mixing bowl, cake pan, stove and other things, that cake would not have
turned out so great. What started out as a messy mixture of stuff, turned into
a decadent dessert that everyone could share and enjoy.
Marriage is a lot like
baking a cake. The process involves understanding how to use and mix those
ingredients and tools for a successful outcome. No one wants a lumpy half-baked
cake. As is such when it comes to our marriage, no couple wants a bumpy,
unfulfilled relationship with the person who they have committed to spend the
rest of their lives with.
So here’s a
solution, dump the old ingredients of doubt and disappointment and replace it
with what God has given you in his word for your marriage. Phillipians 4:8, Finally,
brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is
pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—IF ANYTHING is excellent or
praiseworthy--THINK about such things.
Get your thinking in the right place and
your marriage will follow. Your response to this and other situations is your
responsibility. You may be saying, I have tried this already, however, the word
of God speaks about your trying as it relates to this area in Galatians 6:9, Do
not grow weary in your well doing (thinking-meditating) and faint (fall back
into old habits or doubt that things will change) for in due times and at the
appointed season you shall reap a plentiful harvest. No matter what our spouse
is or is not doing, we must be committed to work, work, and work some more with
prayer and encouragement to keep our marriage on the correct course.
Remember
the cake each time you want to scream, ignore, run out on, or bite the head off
your mate. When you change, everything around you changes to match the
environment. The process and overall success for the best dessert (your
marriage) is yet to come. Meditate on what is good and eat the fruits there of.
Tony & Tarenia
mm4life.com
Marital Advisors
