Seasons Of Marriage

Many us of plan our weddings according to the time of year we would like to get married. Whether we choose a spring, summer, winter or fall ceremony is totally up to our own liking. However, how many us realize that our marriage will go through and dictate it's own seasonal changes. Yes, marriage has it's own seasons. It is wise to figure out which season you are in so that when the transition comes you are prepared to handle what comes your way.

Since you were born, the seasons have come and gone. Each season brings it's own weather patterns and rules for dressing in that season. For summer you wear less clothes, for winter you wear more clothes. Think about it for a moment. If you are in the middle of summer but a cool front arrives you adjust and pull out a sweater to accommodate the changes. You don't go and pull out your winter clothes just yet. You understand that the summer is not over and things do happen in the weather patterns that could bring about a brief change. The same holds true within marriage. You simply understand the season and adjust accordingly. If your mate is having a cold spell in the middle of what should be the hottest and steamiest part of your relationship, give him or her a break and adjust your position to accommodate their seasonal shift.

There are even times when our season's last longer than we would like. It is in those times that we must understand the season will not last forever. In other words, don't get discouraged if situations, attitudes, money woes, health issues or kids are straining and draining the relationship. The season will not, and can not last forever. Those times will end and new beginnings will come. During those times remember to find the shifts that allow for some enjoyment. You may have to CREATE moments during those times that will get you through until the change comes. Just remember the commitment, and the love that you had ( and have) when you said I DO and allow that memory along with other joyous memories to sustain you. Cheers to the lessons we learn to encourage and share with others in our marital seasons.

Marriage is 4 Life,
T n T, (Tony & Tarenia)
MM4Life

Today's post was a reminder for not only our readers but for self as well. Often times life happens and we get caught up in the children, bills, work, and social demands that take us away from our joy of being a loyal spouse. We can at times, not intentionally I might add, take our spouse for granted. One wise individual once said that "Comfortability is the Biggest Snitch You Will Ever Meet". There should be comfort in a marriage but we should not make a rug out of it and walk all over it with muddy high heel stiletto boots. More often than not we should slow down and consider that our mate married a person who was there for them and made them feel special in every way. A man who has a wife wants to continue to remember her as the bride of his youth.  The one that stood at the altar with him and held his hand and happily took his last name as they walked down the aisle and saluted every one as Mr. & Mrs.

Yes, things may have become more complicated since the day you were married. But do not let the complications of life take you away from being the fun, ride or die, listener, dreamer, motivator, and biggest cheerleader your husband ever met. You have matured and yes we all see things a little differently as we go through the marriage seasons, however, you can think like a wife, but act like a blushing bride and let him know that you are on his side no matter what. Incorporate some new rituals. Start off with minor changes like kissing him before leaving for work. Running to the door or garage when he gets home with a hug and a smile. Bring him home a small cooler with his favorite beverage on ice inside on a Friday or Saturday night. Saying I stand by you and believe in you can be done many ways. Seize the opportunity in each day to let him know that you have his side, back and front. Pray for him out loud and let him know that even though your schedule may be full, he is at the top of your priority list. Remember, a wife wants love, a husband wants respect, give it on both ends and nothing will go unchecked.

Blessings,
T-n-T
Marriage...This IS 4 Life