Should We Remain Married if there is NO TRUST??

Burning Question of the Day:

Since trust is our biggest issue can we stay married?

Almost every relationship deals with the issue of trust on some level. It can stem from areas of money all the way to infidelity. It is not uncommon to question how much we can trust someone. Yet is really hurts when our expectations are let down. Should we be able to have a sense of “Oh I know my husband/wife won’t do that”, of course we should. But it’s realistic to say that even in the best of marriages trust can and is often broken. Before we go further lets take a look at what Biblical Scripture says.

Micah 7:(5-6) Put no trust in a neighbor; have no confidence in a friend; guard the doors of your mouth from her who lies in your arms; for the son treats the father with contempt, the daughter rises up against her mother, the daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; a man's enemies are the men of his own house.

WOW!!! The word of God is straightforward and says to trust no one not even those in your own home.

Now take a look at the following Scripture:

Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.

We are instructed to put our trust solely in the Lord and not in man or even in our own abilities to reason or act according to what is right in our own sight.  So, clearly we are not to solely trust anyone other than the Lord. We must trust God to handle our spouse and convict them to make right those areas that clearly they missing the mark on. Trusting God gives God room to impart in us his compassion, his forgiveness, his way of understanding burdens and faults that we all have. We all fall short in the trust arena. Lets look at some of those who have broken trust: our children, our pastors & spiritual leaders, teachers, U.S. Presidents, and even our parents have broken trust.

Marriages are built on Covenant Commitment to remain together as one until Death do you part. Set boundaries, walk in love, forgive offenses and get help for those offenses that cause a rift against the marriage Covenant like infidelity. The best you can do is to be honest and say, “No I don’t trust them, but I do trust God to work in them.” It will give you peace of mind and take the stress off your relationship to allow you both to experience the love of God here on earth.

Grace & Mercy,

MM4Life