I Want Others To See How Much You Mean To Me

Simply telling someone you care may not be enough. There are times when you have to show it in other ways. Take for instance when guys send flowers to their girls workplace the impact is so much more far reaching than if he had them sent to the house. The whole day, everyone that enters her space at work will ask her about the flowers and think highly of who sent them.  Those flowers just announced to everyone around her that she is special and cared for in a deep and meaningful way. Yes, she may not be the flower type, but trust me, EVERY WOMAN want's others to know that she is loved and thought about.

Ladies, your man wants the same attention. No, don't send flowers to his work. Depending on where he's employed that's probably not a good look. But don't negate the fact that he wants others to know that he is "THE MAN". His ego needs to be stroked in front of others and often. Compliment him on his work ethics, his style of dress, how great he smells,  his sense of humor, or other things that would make him feel appreciated. Men love to know that they are wanted and needed. If he is a great father or father figure let him know and encourage that sense of pride and commitment in side of him. If he makes you feel safe and secure, remind him that you appreciate the security he provides in your relationship. Serve him in front of others, never talk negatively about him towards your family or friends. Hey everyone has flaws, none of us are perfect. But talking about each other's flaws in front of others shouts disrespect in the worst possible way. Work to build each other and forgive grievances that are bound to come up day to day. Words and acts of deeds help to keep the relationship balanced and at ease and shows your spouse that your love and admiration for them has no limit and sees no end. This Marriage is 4 Life, Enjoy it to the Fullest.


Marry Me 4 Life,
T n T, (Tony & Tarenia)
MM4Life

Seasons Of Marriage

Many us of plan our weddings according to the time of year we would like to get married. Whether we choose a spring, summer, winter or fall ceremony is totally up to our own liking. However, how many us realize that our marriage will go through and dictate it's own seasonal changes. Yes, marriage has it's own seasons. It is wise to figure out which season you are in so that when the transition comes you are prepared to handle what comes your way.

Since you were born, the seasons have come and gone. Each season brings it's own weather patterns and rules for dressing in that season. For summer you wear less clothes, for winter you wear more clothes. Think about it for a moment. If you are in the middle of summer but a cool front arrives you adjust and pull out a sweater to accommodate the changes. You don't go and pull out your winter clothes just yet. You understand that the summer is not over and things do happen in the weather patterns that could bring about a brief change. The same holds true within marriage. You simply understand the season and adjust accordingly. If your mate is having a cold spell in the middle of what should be the hottest and steamiest part of your relationship, give him or her a break and adjust your position to accommodate their seasonal shift.

There are even times when our season's last longer than we would like. It is in those times that we must understand the season will not last forever. In other words, don't get discouraged if situations, attitudes, money woes, health issues or kids are straining and draining the relationship. The season will not, and can not last forever. Those times will end and new beginnings will come. During those times remember to find the shifts that allow for some enjoyment. You may have to CREATE moments during those times that will get you through until the change comes. Just remember the commitment, and the love that you had ( and have) when you said I DO and allow that memory along with other joyous memories to sustain you. Cheers to the lessons we learn to encourage and share with others in our marital seasons.

Marriage is 4 Life,
T n T, (Tony & Tarenia)
MM4Life

Today's post was a reminder for not only our readers but for self as well. Often times life happens and we get caught up in the children, bills, work, and social demands that take us away from our joy of being a loyal spouse. We can at times, not intentionally I might add, take our spouse for granted. One wise individual once said that "Comfortability is the Biggest Snitch You Will Ever Meet". There should be comfort in a marriage but we should not make a rug out of it and walk all over it with muddy high heel stiletto boots. More often than not we should slow down and consider that our mate married a person who was there for them and made them feel special in every way. A man who has a wife wants to continue to remember her as the bride of his youth.  The one that stood at the altar with him and held his hand and happily took his last name as they walked down the aisle and saluted every one as Mr. & Mrs.

Yes, things may have become more complicated since the day you were married. But do not let the complications of life take you away from being the fun, ride or die, listener, dreamer, motivator, and biggest cheerleader your husband ever met. You have matured and yes we all see things a little differently as we go through the marriage seasons, however, you can think like a wife, but act like a blushing bride and let him know that you are on his side no matter what. Incorporate some new rituals. Start off with minor changes like kissing him before leaving for work. Running to the door or garage when he gets home with a hug and a smile. Bring him home a small cooler with his favorite beverage on ice inside on a Friday or Saturday night. Saying I stand by you and believe in you can be done many ways. Seize the opportunity in each day to let him know that you have his side, back and front. Pray for him out loud and let him know that even though your schedule may be full, he is at the top of your priority list. Remember, a wife wants love, a husband wants respect, give it on both ends and nothing will go unchecked.

Blessings,
T-n-T
Marriage...This IS 4 Life