Ready, Set, Marriage!!!

On any given Sunday, my couch becomes tailgate heaven. I get my gear, my food, my drinks, my wife and lay back in the best seat in the house in-front of the big screen. My wife and I know which teams we are cheering on to victory and even if we disagree on who should be the winner, we do so agreeably. We understand that many elements make the game and one missing piece on the field weakens the team as a whole if someone else doesn't make up for that person or persons performance or absence things can and will fall apart. Truly understanding that to win a game a team must play cohesively to walk away with the W in the win column is a given when watching a game.

But lets roll back to before the team ever hits the field. There are behind the scene preparations that must be taken care of in order to effectively handle the field and the opponent. No team with out preparation and anticipation of what could go wrong during the game sits by idly or figures they will just go off instinct. Each player understand their position and practices to perfect their craft. No team, goes on the field without going over plays to win and counter the opponent.  No team goes on the field without coaches and assistants that line the sideline and fill them with encouragement, notes and plans in order to get the W in the win column. And when everyone plays their part and a win happens it feels great. The same principles, preparation and anticipation should go on within our marriages.

I know, marriage is not a game. However, principles apply, game plans need to be followed, and un-sportsman like conduct or crossing boundaries bring penalties or delay of progress for the marriage as a whole. The players must remember that it's not about individual accomplishments but about the team overall. The beauty of having the team attitude is that even though your intentions and actions are for the team, perks of being with the best and playing your best allow you to shine through and everyone benefits. The same holds true within marriage. 

Times will come when attitudes, beliefs, and opposition will come on the field against your marriage. When these opponents show up, whether or not you and your wife are ready and in position to work as a team will determine the outcome. If team efforts are at the forefront of the relationship, everyone benefits.  In order for teams to be great they play together, encourage each other, correct faults, and grow with each passing game test.  Even after occasional mishaps, a team must get geared up to go back into the next game better than before.  We as couples should always remember the importance of preparing (reading), interceding (praying for) and living by principles (stay away from fouls) in order to advance our married life for good field position, forward progress, and Winning.  Remember, you may not always agree but for the good of the team (marriage) we put aside "me" efforts and focus on "we" efforts. Enjoy your spouse because you Married Them 4 Life.

T & T

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I Want Others To See How Much You Mean To Me

Simply telling someone you care may not be enough. There are times when you have to show it in other ways. Take for instance when guys send flowers to their girls workplace the impact is so much more far reaching than if he had them sent to the house. The whole day, everyone that enters her space at work will ask her about the flowers and think highly of who sent them.  Those flowers just announced to everyone around her that she is special and cared for in a deep and meaningful way. Yes, she may not be the flower type, but trust me, EVERY WOMAN want's others to know that she is loved and thought about.

Ladies, your man wants the same attention. No, don't send flowers to his work. Depending on where he's employed that's probably not a good look. But don't negate the fact that he wants others to know that he is "THE MAN". His ego needs to be stroked in front of others and often. Compliment him on his work ethics, his style of dress, how great he smells,  his sense of humor, or other things that would make him feel appreciated. Men love to know that they are wanted and needed. If he is a great father or father figure let him know and encourage that sense of pride and commitment in side of him. If he makes you feel safe and secure, remind him that you appreciate the security he provides in your relationship. Serve him in front of others, never talk negatively about him towards your family or friends. Hey everyone has flaws, none of us are perfect. But talking about each other's flaws in front of others shouts disrespect in the worst possible way. Work to build each other and forgive grievances that are bound to come up day to day. Words and acts of deeds help to keep the relationship balanced and at ease and shows your spouse that your love and admiration for them has no limit and sees no end. This Marriage is 4 Life, Enjoy it to the Fullest.


Marry Me 4 Life,
T n T, (Tony & Tarenia)
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The No Limit Marriage

The No Limit Marriage

There are times in our relationships where we ponder if it is worth the time, pain, and effort to stay. There are those moments that test the will, and strength to continue without knowing for certain if the pay off will be worth the sacrifice. All relationships go through seasons of change and pain. Yes, even the happiest of couples endure stretches of not so happy circumstances.
Yet, what keeps those couples and others going despite the rough patches? How do they manage to get their happy back and become a testament to others that follow behind them?

Believing that your relationship has purpose beyond the moment of a catastrophe is vitally important to maintaining its value and holding on in times of despair. A great marriage serves more than just the two people in it. With God it's reach has no limit. It is our faith, our undying belief that we have more good deeds and moments ahead than what is trying to stop us from moving forward together. Our hope in God, our faith in self and one another, and our love of relationship sustains us. We look beyond the flaws, hurt, embarrassment, and let downs knowing that greater is yet to come because of our sacrifice. It is in those moments, that we understand our burdens weight may be heavy, but God's yoke will lighten the load. We keep pressing to the end knowing that those along the way benefit positively, or negatively from the choices we make today. The future of generations to come depend on what we choose to do with our present situations. Let no stone be unturned, no corner be not mended, for what may not seem good now is set to become great just as God intended.


Marriage is 4 Life,
T n T, (Tony & Tarenia)
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Should We Remain Married if there is NO TRUST??

Burning Question of the Day:

Since trust is our biggest issue can we stay married?

Almost every relationship deals with the issue of trust on some level. It can stem from areas of money all the way to infidelity. It is not uncommon to question how much we can trust someone. Yet is really hurts when our expectations are let down. Should we be able to have a sense of “Oh I know my husband/wife won’t do that”, of course we should. But it’s realistic to say that even in the best of marriages trust can and is often broken. Before we go further lets take a look at what Biblical Scripture says.

Micah 7:(5-6) Put no trust in a neighbor; have no confidence in a friend; guard the doors of your mouth from her who lies in your arms; for the son treats the father with contempt, the daughter rises up against her mother, the daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; a man's enemies are the men of his own house.

WOW!!! The word of God is straightforward and says to trust no one not even those in your own home.

Now take a look at the following Scripture:

Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.

We are instructed to put our trust solely in the Lord and not in man or even in our own abilities to reason or act according to what is right in our own sight.  So, clearly we are not to solely trust anyone other than the Lord. We must trust God to handle our spouse and convict them to make right those areas that clearly they missing the mark on. Trusting God gives God room to impart in us his compassion, his forgiveness, his way of understanding burdens and faults that we all have. We all fall short in the trust arena. Lets look at some of those who have broken trust: our children, our pastors & spiritual leaders, teachers, U.S. Presidents, and even our parents have broken trust.

Marriages are built on Covenant Commitment to remain together as one until Death do you part. Set boundaries, walk in love, forgive offenses and get help for those offenses that cause a rift against the marriage Covenant like infidelity. The best you can do is to be honest and say, “No I don’t trust them, but I do trust God to work in them.” It will give you peace of mind and take the stress off your relationship to allow you both to experience the love of God here on earth.

Grace & Mercy,

MM4Life